Fidelity In Marriage

The Family: A Proclamation to the World states that “the family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity.” 

 

Complete Fidelity; what does this mean?

Fidelity is faithfulness and devotion. I believe fidelity in marriage is not just about abstaining from sex outside marriage; it is so much more than that.  Kenneth W. Matheson who is a Professor at the School of Social Work, at Brigham Young University has said that “fidelity includes refraining from physical contact—but that is not all. Fidelity also means complete commitment, trust, and respect between husband and wife. Inappropriate interactions with another person can erode fidelity.” Complete fidelity equals complete commitment, complete trust and complete respect. It is not a partial thing; couples need to devote their time and energy to their spouse and family. 

 

We live in a time where the world looks upon chastity and fidelity as an afterthought. Gordon B Hinckley had said that we must “stand above the sleaze and the filth and the temptation which is all about you.” Satan wants us to fail and he tries with all his power to tempt us. He is subtle and cunning. I do not believe that a person wake up one day and decides that they are going to be unfaithful. It is something that develops gradually and stems from thoughts and feelings in the mind and in the heart.  

 

A great example to me of someone who abstained from sexual temptation was Joseph of Israel. The account of this is found in Genesis chapter 39. In summation; he held a high position in the home of his master Potiphar but Potiphar’s wife tried to seduce Joseph into lying with her. He resisted her advances and without hesitation fled from her. Verse 12 says ‘and she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.’ I love this imagery. He did not linger he fled and I am grateful for this example.   

 

How can you maintain fidelity in marriage?

Spouses can make sure to spend time with each other and listen to each other. Husband and wife can control their thoughts and avoid situations that would cause them to waver. If put in a situation that could pose as a temptation; I suggest a person have a preset response. Just like Joseph knew that he was not going to give into the temptation of Potiphar's wife and fled, so can we in our lives know exactly what we will do in these cases. Marriage is sacred, it is not only a covenant made between spouses but also before God. I know that fidelity in marriage is essential to a successful marriage. Couples who are faithful in keeping their covenants will have happiness and gain the rewards that are available from God.

References

Matheson, K.W. Fidelity in Marriage: It’s More Than You Think
Barlow, B.A. They Twain Shall Be One: Thoughts on Intimacy in Marriage
The Family: A Proclamation to the World
Hinckley, G.B (1998) “Walking in the Light of the Lord” Ensign